Uncertainty and Novelty! Newsletter - Week 3
Welcome back to our weekly newsletter! This week we're exploring the fascinating science of how uncertainty and novelty can actually strengthen your connection.
This Week's Tale for Two
Researchers have found that uncertainty and novelty can actually amplify attraction. Doing mysterious or slightly unpredictable activities together, like a surprise plan, heightens arousal, which we often associate with the person we're with. It's called misattribution of arousal, and it means surprise dates really do spark connection!
— Dutton & Aron, 1974, "The bridge study"
This classic research shows us that when we experience excitement or uncertainty with our partner, our brains can interpret those feelings as increased attraction. It's why surprise dates, spontaneous adventures, and trying new things together can feel so magical – you're literally creating the conditions for deeper connection!
Your Next Date Idea
Head to a café or restaurant. You each pick what the other has to eat or drink – no vetoes allowed!
This simple activity perfectly captures the power of uncertainty and novelty:
- Element of surprise - you never know what your partner will choose for you
- Shared vulnerability - you're both stepping outside your comfort zones
- Playful trust - letting your partner make decisions for you
- New experiences - you might discover something you never would have tried
Pro tip: Make it even more fun by setting a theme like "most colorful dish" or "something we've never tried before"!
Personal Note
Big news – we launched our blog! You can now find stories, date ideas, and behind-the-scenes snippets at . It's where we'll share more updates, newsletters, and finding magic in small things. We'd love for you to check it out!
Having a dedicated space to share our journey feels like such a milestone. We're excited to dive deeper into the stories behind the cards, share more relationship insights, and celebrate all the amazing adventures couples are having with Tales for Two. The blog is where we can really connect with our community and share the longer stories that don't fit in these weekly newsletters.
Card of the Week
This week's featured card is "Minutes to Magic" – a card that's all about taking a chance, setting a timer, and starting walking. When it rings, enter the first place you see and start exploring! It's the perfect embodiment of embracing uncertainty and letting spontaneity guide your adventure.
Snapshot of the Week
Tag us on Instagram @talesfortwogame or send us an email with your photos to get featured in next week's newsletter! We love seeing couples out there creating their own adventures and embracing the unexpected.
This week's snapshot shows the magic that happens when you let uncertainty lead the way – sometimes the most beautiful discoveries are the ones you never planned for!
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Until next week, keep embracing the unexpected together!
With love and adventure,
— The Tales for Two Team
P.S. What's the most spontaneous thing you and your partner have done together? We'd love to hear about your unplanned adventures!
